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We Are Narcissists with Self-Esteem Issues

Really, we are. Just think about it.

People are going out of their way to make sure everyone knows just how awkward, depressed, antisocial, and messed-up they are.

Hey guess what- everyone is. Everyone feels awkward. Everyone can feel depressed (although I recognize Depression as a real mental disorder, considering I have medication for it). Everyone can be antisocial. Everyone is messed-up.

Teenagers these days are all over the media, crying out in anguish as someone posts a comment that makes them feel unloved and unwanted and unspecial. I have one thing to say- grow up.

Now now, before you start closing the tab or stalking me down to tell me how rude I am, just listen. I am definitely not condoning bullying. I am strongly against it. But, you don't have to play the victim. If they can make you so miserable, find someone whom you love and let them make you happy.

If you really want to feel happy, then do it. As one of the people I look up to said, "you're the only one who can fix you."(Miranda Fraser, she's a nice person :3) Don't cling to your anger and self-pity just because you want people to take notice of you.

Let me tell you a story.

I am a teenage girl, so I obviously am pretty insecure and emotional.

I would complain to my friends quite a bit about my problems, and I would always chase after responses like "no, you're beautiful!" or "you're so amazing! Don't be so hard on yourself." After a while, I was complaining to my sister (by friendship, not blood) Taylor May about how I felt ugly, and her response shocked me.

She yelled at me.

I was thoroughly surprised; how dare she! At first, I was hurt and thought she didn't care. Then, I realized something- she yelled because she cared.

That response shocked me into taking steps to get over myself and actually try to become more happy. I am truly thankful to have her in my life to set me straight.

Moral of the story is, I get it, life is really hard sometimes. But that's no excuse for throwing a pity-party for yourself. Take steps to make it better. It's okay to vent to your friends, it's okay to feel overwhelmed, it's okay to not feel okay. The problem comes in when you refuse to seek the help that people offer you.

Get help, be better. Confidence immediately improves your life and the attitudes of everyone around you.

Most of all, don't give up. Giving up accomplishes nothing, and believe it or not, lots of people love you and want you to succeed, Jesus and I being two of them.

If you need to talk, I can listen.

But most of all, carpe diem!

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